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Online Dating Tips
- Choose a catchy user/screen name that corresponds to your character...
something that sums up you as a person, and if you want, along with
your first name. Avoid names that are too vain, or that will give
people the wrong impression (especially ones with sexual connotations,
if you are a strictly “not on the first date” person!).
“Sweet Petite24”, “SportingSam34”, all give
a quick insight to the person, and are short and catchy.
- An introductory phrase that will turn heads - short, positive
and to the point. This will be the first information viewers will
learn about you. Again, nothing that will bring the wrong sort of
attention.
- Photos - it may sound obvious, but choose one that is updated.
Do not put a photo of you with your ex, or even with the ex cut
out of the photo. One of yourself only is a good idea - someone
will mistake you for your gorgeous looking friend and what a disappointment
that will be when (or if) you meet. Make sure that the quality of
the photo is good, normally a head-shot is good enough; the face
is the first thing people are interested in. OK, it’s a good
idea to give the viewer a peek into your world, for example one
of you in the mountains showing you are an outdoor person, but be
careful here: one of you at work in front of the computer might
not get the responses in, nor one with you in front of your Mercedes,
(we call that showing off) - especially if it’s really not
yours!
- Your ad: pay attention to spelling mistakes and grammar - this
is a real turn off. Be clear, and explain what you want without
going off on a tangent. This will narrow down your responses and
bring in those who are genuinely interested in you.
- How to take rejection - lightly! Be rational and try to adopt
a healthy thought; it’s their loss, not yours!
- How to decline - politely; remember, there is another person on
the other end just like yourself - think about how you would feel
when receiving a negative response to messages. Some examples: I’m
sorry I don’t think we are compatible / I don’t think
there’s any chemistry between us, but I wish you good luck
in your quest…
- First dates: arrange something relaxed and not too adventurous
- things may not turn out as you expect (a back up plan will be
a good idea)! And, please, do make an effort on your appearance
- obvious and essential notes to take heed of: smelly breath, dirty
and unkempt nails, greasy hair… need we go on? We suggest
meeting for a coffee, a quick drink, and as always, in a public
place. Then, according to how the situation goes, options of continuing
the date or ending it, or even planning the next one, are all easily
accessible, with no awkward and cringe-worthy moments. For obvious
safety reasons, don’t forget to let a friend know where you
- On first dates, make sure you have at least made mental notes
on the person you are with - you don’t want to be confusing
them with another person you may have met on the net…very
embarrassing! This way at least you will have some conversation
topics lined up - then it’s just a matter of taking things
on from there!
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